Building Your Love Bank Balance
Communicate what makes you feel cared about and valued.
Increasing Your Love Bank Balance
Your Relationship Love Bank
Think of your relationship as a Love Bank.
Learn to build the balance of your account through regular deposits.
We make deposits into our Love Bank when we do things that leave our friends, family members and others feeling cared about and valued.
A positive balance in the Love Bank helps provide important protection to our relationships.
You can make deposits by giving compliments, showing appreciation and gratitude (sincere and specific), spending time together, affection, helping out with tasks that are important to others, and giving gifts … the actions that express love to the person with whom you want to build a high balance.
Making Love Bank deposits is about doing the things that leave others feeling cared for, valued, and important. Often what makes others feel cared about is different than what we want for ourselves.
What we experience as caring often changes. Don’t assume that what made some feel cared about in the past is the same today. Become comfortable asking and confiding what fills your Love Bank.
The Love Bank has a five-to-one rule
: we must make at least five positive deposits in the Love Bank to make up for one withdrawal, such as criticizing, making a negative observation, or disappointing someone.
Discovering what it takes to fill your Love Bank with actions that communicate,
will help your relationship grow and flourish.
Make a commitment to keeping the balance high. A good place to start is rating each of the following statements to let the person or people you are closest to know how important (or not) each action is to you at this time in your life. After receiving your list, hopefully others will share their own with you.
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