Emptying Your Emotional Jug
Trauma victims, including witnesses and first responders, can find comfort by confiding painful emotions once survival threats have passed.
When it comes to painful, upsetting emotions, we can often feel or even see the tip, but may have no idea what's underneath.
Don't Begin this Exercise Unless You Know How to Complete It
Emptying the Emotional Jug is about exploring what's often beneath the surface. That's a key part of this exercise, which makes it very different from simply venting about whatever may be upsetting you at the moment.
Learning to regularly empty your emotional jug is important to making room inside for feelings of love, tenderness, pleasure and desire.
This exercise is best done in person with a loved one who just listens with empathy and thanks you for confiding after each step.
When it can't be done in person, it can be helpful to write down your responses, which you can do using this PAIRS App.
Don't worry about them making sense or feeling like you have to give an explanation. Just give the feelings some words before going on to each next step.
It's important to do this exercise only when you are able and committed to completing it. Stopping in the middle can be a little like getting off a roller-coaster before the ride is over.
You should plan for this to take you 20 - 30 minutes to complete.
If you'd like a PAIRS Professional to confidentially review your responses and provide brief, complimentary feedback by email, please let us know by selecting the appropriate box at the end of the exercise.
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