Boundaries and Jealousy
Boundaries are a necessary part of creating unquestioned trust between partners. Unquestioned trust means giving your heart to each other for safekeeping with absolute confidence that it will not be broken.
When people get married or otherwise commit themselves to each other, they agree to trust each other as well as to conduct themselves and behave in a trusting manner. Boundaries define those lines that we agree not to cross, such as having an affair, or lying to our partner. Boundaries also help keep us in our own protective circle of love and trust. They allow us to depend on certain things, such as honesty, and goodwill in our marriages.
When boundaries in relationships become fragile or when past hurts make us insecure, we may have a tendency to react with jealousy. Jealousy is perhaps the least understood of all our emotions.
PAIRS teaches that jealousy can be like a spider’s web with interwoven strands of difficult, painful emotions, and unrealistic expectations. The more important a relationship is to us, the more we can worry about it, be hurt by it, or be afraid of losing it.